Sunday, December 29, 2019

New year - New me - Resolutions.


So, how many of you remember your yesteryear’s resolutions?
To be honest, I don't. Not one. Majorly because I had big resolutions. "Big" ones that I presumed to change my life & interestingly I don't recollect any to say. More interestingly, I am here, all buckled down with my new year resolutions yet again. As hopeless as it sounds. 
Or wait, may be hopeful

Let me share with you my expert tips from a few million years experience of following a new year ritual - making resolutions.

Dreaming "Big" is a cliche. 
I have almost always been confused about dreaming big, as the magnitude of my dreams kept me questioning my abilities - clearly not driving me towards accomplishing my dreams of becoming a professional singer or a doctor. It took me an inconceivable era to finally get the idea of how to chase big dreams by simply working on small action items every single day
"Every big dream is like a beautiful fabric interlaced intricately in the right direction by a ton of selected small thread-like tasks".
Be humiliated. 
There is utter shame in not trying and a sort of pride in failure, if only you wish to see. Be humiliated about failing to try. Starting over has an insightful undertone just like how "Boldness has genius, power and magic in it", as Goethe said. And so, I am beginning again. But this time around, so much so like the curious girl in me who was unintimidated by who was around - who did not reckon failure - who sang her heart out - who was always resolute to rise. 

Feel threatened - by time & not by your dreams.
We are indeed confined and all we have is just 'now'. Whether or not you realize, the truth is your time is running out & your "stay" is shortening anyway, at a pace - may be much faster than you think. Today, there are innumerable instances of time to money conversion. Just that our time is converted to someone else's money. Such remorseless exploitation of ignorant people's personal time is a subdued scam encouraged by our own incomprehension.

Living in this frightening whirlpool of some covetous technological advancements, it becomes indispensable for each of us today to scrutinize our own activities. Consider thinking about and reworking on how you spend every hour of your day. While you do, remember to steer clear of actions that don't make you a better person physically or mentally. It is insane to waste your time on things that do not move you a bit towards your dream. Some examples include:
  • Endlessly watching TV.
  • Indefinitely scrolling down FB wall; peeping into someone else's life for no good.
  • Clicking on links and reading/watching something you actually did not intend to.
  • Inadvertently talking with random people online/offline etc.

The list goes on. It's in fact amusing when someone says they are passing time. The question here is:
"Are humans mightier than time? Isn't it time that is passing us rather?"
"There is no shortcut", a 60 year old wise woman once said to me. But that was all she said. How I wish she expanded a little, letting my then naive mind pick up the essence of her words right. 
One who works hard, for sure sees his path to success differently; one who consistently works hard is already half-way through.
At this point in life, my view about what an artist is most celebrated for has definitely changed. What do you guess it could be? Neither is it the fineness of art nor the poised nature of the artist. 
The world appreciates and celebrates sheer determination & persistency that the artist demonstrates. 

Ignoring the negativity around is a much-needed skill.
Do not heed to people who: constantly put you down, belittle your work or judge you for how you do it; for you are at least making efforts, unlike them. And effort - however it is, should never be disparaged. Mistakes are vital for growth. Look for people who keep your spirits up and raise you higher in the ladder. Those darlings need to be cherished. Obviously “ignoring" to pen anything about the rest here so that you get the point.

You can never be the best though. 
You read it right; you can never be the best when you are determined to compete with who you were the previous day. Striving to be the best version of 'you' is simply a never-ending process. Take pride in being a work-in-progress. Hang in and be diligent. 
Dreams do come true but with time, patience & perseverance. 
So, tell me about your new year's resolution.☺ Just in case you did not think about it yet, don't wait. 
Find out where you belong & just begin. 

"தொடங்கித் தொலையும்!", as I often say in Tamil. 

With that prudent note, I end my ramblings for 2019. _/\_ 
Happy New Year, y'all ☺ Much love.


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Saturday, July 20, 2019

The Child (I)n Mom


Deafening screams of her core
Diminishing the squeals of her youngster;
Somewhere into the noises of present,
Seeped through the voices of past.

Little did she know that
Innocent smiles of long ago
In-deed made times glow.
Aimlessly drifting kite...
Amusingly gliding paper-boat...
Strangely satisfying to quote.

Building her own maze &
Dwelling in her joyous days,
Ain't they self-same?
Eyes shut at this juncture,
A quick gaze at herself clasping mother,
She keeps patting her snuggling toddler.

Amidst the bustling now & rustling then,
In-between the toing & froing sun,
Back & forth, she bounced
Between mothering & being mothered.

Friday, April 5, 2019

'A Quiet Place' lingers

'A Quiet Place' disrupts your quietude. 
Daunting noises unwilling to settle in my head after heeding the unspoken conversations. "The very first scene of downright adorable Beau dying a toy death distresses you" is an under-statement. I was crushed watching Beau's mom sob in silence, at the edge of my seat already, as the movie began. A family's indestructible sense of togetherness, come what may, their inconceivable determination to hold on to the gift of life, sheer acceptance of uncertainty and most of all, their sustained efforts to rebuild-conspire-confront for life are unquestionably astounding.

Most of the time, we don't appreciate enough the 'giving' nature of our parents, their invaluable advices for life, our liberty of choice, the generous amount of time bestowed upon us, euphonious nectar-like music that heals and so on. Giving it a thought, we conveniently evade acknowledging and exercising what we have, don’t we? 



Summing up my takeaways from 'A Quiet Place':
  1. Know the value of your life. 
  2. Cognize what you have. 
  3. Stillness doesn’t necessarily mean death. 
  4. Be frightened until you die or boast boldness till you live, after all bravery is the real beauty. "உச்சிமீது வானிடிந்து வீழுகின்ற போதினும்அச்சமென்பதில்லையே." - பாரதியார்
  5. Seek all possible means to live your life.
  6. Work invariably to be useful to the society.
  7. Remember, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. 
  8. Be grateful.
  9. See through a dad's eye to feel his love & his pain.
  10. Worship your mother. 
I indeed feel more privileged than ever that I have food, shelter & a loving family. 
Celebrate life.


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